So, I like to think I generally have a pretty positive vibe!! I work hard to keep my head clear and do things that I need to do to make me better. Of course, I am not perfect and there are moments where my fears will try to break me down. I have some ways that help me keep myself feelin’ good that I am going to share with you!
I tend to worry a lot about the future. Whether it’s on the extreme end of worrying, which is about my parents and loved ones dying (dark, I know but fuck this one gets me,) or on the other end which is not achieving the dreams I have in life. Both are things I have no control over yet both of them can push me to the point of being really fucked up.
My parents, Matt, Winnie and my own death
Not achieving my dreams
Relapsing on my addiction
There are things that are in the future. I have no way of predicting what is going to happen, but for some reason my mind gets really fixated on this!
I know how intense these fears are, maybe for you it manifests more into worrying about your career or personal life. No matter what the fears are, they all have the same impact on our lives.
I am sure to some extent everyone experiences fears that cause them to have intense emotions. Whether it manifests in anxiety, anger, sadness, some even motivation, it can be quite an adventure.
Being present and not letting these things consume me is something I really have to work on. It is almost a day by day thing, depending on the week or whatever. Some days I am totally fine and can stay chill. Then once in a while, I am absolutely rocked by sadness and the anxiety that comes along with my biggest fears.
Now, after all of that, how do I stay positive? How do I not let these things control my life?
HOW I STAY POSITIVE
stay present- I really really REALLY focus on this. Whether it is mindfulness or deep breathing, I need to find ways to keep me in the now. This way, my fears (which all revolve around the future,) don’t fuck with my head.
be grateful- Being grateful is truly a practice. If you think about the amazing things in your life, small or big, that love and support you, it is hard to let your fears kick in. If this is something you need to practice, I suggest getting a journal and write 3 things your are grateful for everyday.
be honest with yourself- Stop all the bullshit. Don’t try to fool yourself, at the end of the day, you need to just let that guard down and be real. Look in the mirror and get honest. Find what makes you tick and work towards being a better you.
self love- Love yourself. Treat your mind and body with the respect it deserves. In order to face your fears, you need to be in a healthy physical AND mental head space. I really feel like this should hold a very important place in everyones lives.
acceptance/willingness- Accept your fears and be willing to face them. It’s one thing knowing your fears, it is another taking action and doing something about it.
If you can get these things going in your life, I promise they will lead to a happier and healthier mindset. As I said, I still experience my fears but SO much less than I used to. I just keep pushing myself and day by day, I feel those positive vibes radiating in my life.