I honestly believe being positive is an action word. To be positive is something that you need to work on and be constantly aware of. Bringing forward great change in your life is something you must strive to do. It won't happen unless you make it happen.
Before I got sober, my life was filled with turmoil. I couldn't make a good decision if it hit me over the head. I was constantly behaving selfishly and irrationally which led to so much negativity in my life. My relationships were always inconsistent, I could never show up properly for friends and family, it was utter chaos.
When I was in treatment, I remember having this lightbulb moment where I realized how f*cked up my behaviour was. How much harm and damage I caused to the people I loved was unacceptable and from that moment forward I promised myself to never be the same. I realized that this was a make or break moment in my life and I needed to step up to be the woman I always knew I could be.
Becoming this person has taken pain, honesty, and a lot of self-reflection. Being honest with yourself seems like it will be the hardest thing you will ever do, but forgiving yourself is even harder. My road to self-discovery has been riddled with serious highs and lows, mistakes and hurt but every time I get through to the other side of a difficult time, I know I have grown.
Every day, I work towards being a positive person. I find that positivity may not be a natural tendency for most people, so awareness is key. If I wake up in the morning and think, "I am going to take action today to be positive," I will most likely do this! I need to reframe my thoughts and be the master of my own mind, not the other way around.
Not letting your mind control you is key. I often have racing thoughts, feeling like I am not in control. It is important to learn tools that will help you balance out what is real and what is not. I have learned this tool called the worry box. When I have a thought that is negative or is obsessive, I tell myself this is not the time to think about it, as I have allocated 20 minutes later in the day to think about these things. I put the thoughts in a box and save it for later. Instead of pushing away negative feelings, never acknowledging them, I actually allow myself the time to think about them but in a healthy, structured environment. This way I feel like I am in control on my thoughts and can focus more on positivity.
There are so many ways to start being the master of your mind. It takes time and you must be patient but change will happen. Self-awareness and self-reflection are often the gateways to a more happy and successful life. Humility and gratitude are the answers. Be the person you have always wanted to be and inspire change within yourself!