Wow, it has been waaayyy too long since I have shared with you guys!! I feel like so much has happened that I need to update you all on. I will start with how the holidays were and work backwards from there in new blog posts in the following weeks.
Every alcoholic/addict knows that the holidays are the fucking worst for maintaining sobriety. There are so many triggers between seeing family, being around alcohol more then usual, and just the sheer fact that these are generally boozy times for people.
I personally used the holidays in the past as an excuse to go on benders all the time! It seemed like a natural and normal thing to do… and it gave me a great excuse to get drunk on a Tuesday.
Now, being in recovery, it can be a tough time of year to keep my brain in check.
I can be around alcohol now and be fine (granted I am almost 3 years sober, this wasn’t always the case) but I still have moments where I see people drinking and miss it. I can have a euphoric recall where I only remember the good times and forget the fucked up times where I did crazy stuff and was a total dick. I really have to be honest with myself in these moments because a relapse can happen SO fast.
It took me a long time to get to this place but I feel very strong in my sobriety. I still take things one day at a time but I have genuinely built a life around me that no longer can accommodate alcohol/drugs.
The first couple Christmas’s/New Years were hard because my life wasn’t built on this strong foundation yet. I worked hard for a long time to create a career and environment where I knew I didn’t need substances to thrive in my world.
Now, when I am presented with these challenging periods of time, I know that it will pass. My fleeting thoughts telling me that I miss alcohol and that I am left out of all the fun will pass. I know this now because of experience and time. Time really heals a lot of things. Cheesy but true.
I laugh now because I used to think I could ONLY have fun while being drunk. My identity was so wrapped up in being the crazy fun party girl that I didn’t know who I was or what to do without all my party tricks.
Flash forward to now, I am still that crazy fun party girl MINUS allllll the fucked up stuff that almost killed me. Crazy how life works!
SO here are my awesome tips for staying SOBER in this crazy alcohol/drug obsessed world we live in.
Recreate your world. It sounds hard but if you really want to live a happy and healthy life, you NEED to get surrounded by things/people that will help keep you safe.
be HONEST with yourself!! Holy fuck, this one is huge. My mind will play tricks on me allll the time. It is important to actually recognize when you’re not in the right head space so you can save yourself, from yourself.
Learn to say no. If you are feeling pressure or are not comfortable going somewhere with someone. Don’t. Do. It. I had issues setting boundaries for a very long time but it has ultimately saved me.
Have someone that you trust that you can call up. I tend to isolate when I am feeling bad and this is a very dangerous habit. If you are feeling sorry for yourself, or like you can’t handle life, call someone to set you straight. It seems so simple but it is vital.
Find new passions that will keep you entertained. I found fitness. It is my rock and keeps my head clear. Find something you love that will help you through the tough times.
Hope this helps!!! Comment, email, let me know how you feel during these times!!